Now that you know that your parents are divorcing or separating you may have many different feelings. You may feel upset and angry and worried about the future. There may be confusion and you may feel that you are stuck in the middle of your parent’s arguments. You can feel fed up with the arguing. You may also feel that you are very different from all of your friends whose parents are staying together. These feelings are completely normal but it helps to talk to your parents, friends or Grandparents about these.
There may be many questions that might go through your mind when you think about what will happen in the future. You may be uncertain that you may have to change schools, or to move house. You may ask if your Mum and Dad still care for you or what will happen if, and when, your Mum and Dad have a new partner. These are very common feelings that most children go through when their parents are divorcing or separating.
To reassure you about the future:-
- Do not blame yourself when your parents are splitting up or separating. It is really not your fault. You need to think positively about the future.
- Although it may seem impossible now, life will get better.
- It is not up to you to make everything alright with your parents.
- Your parents will always be your Mum and Dad.
Who you can talk to
It is important that you can keep communicating with people who may be able to help you at this time. There may be members of your family that you can talk to. You should think about talking to your aunts or uncles, Grandma or Grandad, or other members of your family. You should also think about whether you can talk to any friends of the family,
As part of their divorce or separation, your Mum and Dad may consider mediation to be a suitable way to go about things. Mediation involves your Mum and Dad talking about things and making a sensible agreement to make sure that everything is in place for the future. As part of this process you can also talk with a mediator.
Contact us for Family Mediation – 03300 101 354